• Kristen Stephenson

Know Your Worth & Own It

Updated: Mar 31

In a world filled with perfect images and captions of people living their #bestlife and being #blessed it’s easy to get caught up in the world of comparison, to start to doubt yourself and to feel like what you have is enough and sometimes that results in not feeling your true worth. For five years now I have been a stay at home mum, a role that I feel in today’s society is looked down upon and not valued like a job that brings home the money. Every time I would meet someone new I would dread the time that I would be asked “so, what do you do?” I felt ashamed that I was “just a mum” (a role I now feel is the most important I will ever have and also the hardest and most undervalued job there is) and didn’t feel worthy of everything we had achieved in our life. I told myself that we had our house and cars because of my husband’s job, I felt embarrassed by the fact that we had the flexibility in our life due to him working away and I could never accept a compliment always brushing it off with an offhand comment or tried to crack a joke to move attention away from myself. But then I started to work on why this was happening and things started to shift, and here’s how you can do the same.

1. On a notepad write down everything you are proud of, everything you love about yourself and everything you have achieved so far. Then when you are in the midst of a bad day re read the list and use it as a gentle reminder to yourself that you are worthy and you have already achieved so much.

2. Put in place a support system, a coach, mentor, your bestie, even your partner so that when you find yourself floundering, they can pick you up, talk things through and remind you that you are amazing even when you don’t believe it yourself.

3. Practise self love. I know it’s all the rage at the moment but it’s for good reason. Every time you look in the mirror instead of finding your flaws give yourself a compliment. Be proud of how far you have come and what you have achieved in your life so far. You have made it through 100% of every hard day you didn’t think you could face so go on celebrate that.

4. When you catch yourself saying I can’t stop and think about why you can. Your brain is wired to keep you safe so as soon as you start to feel the fear of a new challenge it will pull you into the safe zone and make you believe that it’s not safe and you should stay in hiding. The reality is you can do it you may just have to step out of your comfort zone a little, which brings me to my next point.

5. Get out of your comfort zone. Yep it’s scary but with every little baby step you take into the great unknown the more your confidence will grow and in return your so will self worth. Not to mention this is where the magic happens, this is the growth zone and I can guarantee you will continually surprise yourself with what you can achieve.

6. Set boundaries, you don’t have to say yes to everything just to please other people especially if it means neglecting your own needs. Say yes to only the things you truly want to be a part of, of course in life there are some things you have to do but if you have the option sit and make a conscious decision, will this make me happy yes or no. Or in the words of Marie Kondo “does this spark joy in me” and there you have your answer…

7. And last but not least don’t wait for someone else to make you happy or feel loved. Love yourself first and foremost, don’t wait for that special someone to come into your life and make you feel complete, you will never find your worth in another person.

So now you have my top tips for creating change get out there and start implementing them into your life, there is nothing more freeing than showing up to the world as your authentic self.

Kristen xxx


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